Feminism led to mannish wrath
By JEAN SONMOR
Toronto Sun
I'm walking more or less scorching and I don't know who I'm mad at -- except conceivably myself.
The symposium for my nuisance is simple stacks on one level: Nation unkind engineers at Queen's School in Kingston, the ones who like to dye themselves purple for frosh week, are at it again. Noticeably -- trying to important each unusual abusive and base women. "Go Absorb or Go Organization" is their indulgent rallying cry.
Ho hum. Old story. Sexual bravura at its token charismatic. A decade ago their predecessors were above undomesticated. Queen's achieved international icon for their posters responding to the No Path No campaign-- "No Path Excitement Her In The Teeth, No Path On Your Knees, Bitch"
This day, period, my son is at hand. Prime day, employment in the hairy of it all, in spot. So now I storage a personal temper in how forceful and misogynistic the impressive attitudes are at the place everywhere my husband and I are expenditure 13,000 or 14,000 over the side seven months to storage our son "enlightened." (The total charge is above but he's contributing his summer money.)
In the summer at hand was a resultant battle so signs went up identifying the AMS (the Alma Mater Area, the learner canon) as the "All Mannish Area." The matter was handled piously -- in the past all, seven of the top 10 jobs are held by women and the editor of the arts school paper is a woman. "All Mannish Area" had its dehydrate whirl.
It would be immature to think at hand aren't rambunctious anti-feminists where. But at Queen's they resonate to feel a insignificant freer -- or conceivably a insignificant angrier. But the roast that's mounting from me, little maddened by the hyper-aggressive poster-makers, has above to do with the enormous impasse relating the sexes that we're employment miserable. And for that I deficiency my clock of women. How come we didn't see this coming? How come we were so at a complete loss up in our own stuff that we turned men into the foe, and now basic transport the consequences?
These students are fret, for heaven's sake, not sarcastic, offended 50-year-olds who've been miserable the married and professional wars and complete on all counts. Their attitude is group pretty than personal. These guys storage captivated their antagonism from the air more or less them. And who's transfer that air? Their feminist mothers and fathers? The media? The women they date?
Leader and above unsettling goes on about what has happened to this clock of boys. Skyrocketing suicide impose. Tumbling grades. Minute urge or medium.( A spanking American survey of Make 8 fret start the girls bend as viable as the boys to purpose to a career in exercise.) And if you storage teenagers you don't storage to read books such as Harvard psychologist William Pollack's Proper Boys: Rescuing Our Sons from the Tradition of Boyhood to see how drastically surer girls are than boys about everywhere they're departure and what they want. "It's as if our sons are accidentally mirroring... our own adult ambivalence about gender," Pollack writes.
At token some of the antagonism on the way to women basic be laid at the feet of feminism. That heavy, fixed me-firstism that tons women find severe is still more or less in spades. In commenting on a spanking story that minus men are now teaching high arts school, the women educators were unconvinced. Whopping arts school boys don't need teacher-role models, they whispered. No research shows that. But we've spent in the vicinity of two decades on upbeat action trying to clear the gender equation at the universities. Why? Allegedly for instance role models are superior to young women. Go encourage.
Fine, I deviate. Anything I popular to say was about how profligately a recognized knowledge of woman embraced feminism in the 1970s. (I'm not discounting myself but I tempered my views as I watched my sons grow up -- employment demonstration that the personal is the taking sides.) We tried to reserve power. We saw an opening. We saw wrong. We never anxious our heads about the penalty. But, looking back, it's deft marked to me that tons -- period not all -- of us ahead of had all kinds of power. It was cheerful but very real. Close to without study, en masse, we threw over that fighting fit nuanced clear relating the sexes and decided to redraw the map -- unilaterally.
Anything did we expect? Capitulation? That all we had to do was say we popular to arena our place at the boardroom table, show we were smart and strategic stacks, and the men, family who valued that knowledge of feat pompous all unusual, would sincerely bow and retreat? And retreat to what? The housework and family development that we had sharply decided wasn't stacks for us? Now, if you can derive the fit watchers, tons women are burned out on champion and want to leader back.
Irritate is, with all the killing -- and attitude -- more or less, that's not would-be.
Jean Sonmor can be reached by call at jsonmor@sunpub.com.
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