Tranifesto Gender Identity Confusion

BY MATT KAILEYA reader writes: "My 19-year-old son came out to us as gay seeing that he was 17. Save for he has never had any relationship with anybody, I understand that he is attracted to males and individual certainly no issues with him being gay. Now that he is 19 (still no relationships), he is saying he thinks he is transsexual, which I just don't see in him. "He is a math-nerd type, very logical, fit bright, not at all into image. Hates the expressive female stuff like shopping or bind up up or tactic. Excessively male mind - into fantasy/anime/sci fi. "I just don't see it and am dreadful he will choose separate from himself and become less happy penury he move pitch. He is leaving to see a telescope that works with LGBT issues, but I don't want to marker him as trans if he is not honestly. Am I inexact to think that peak MTF people would individual more fem traits? Meet with help."You're not inexact to think that peak MTF people would individual more female traits, but you're not wholly just, either. Present-day are adequate of trans women who customarily exhibited "female" traits. But I exceedingly warn trans women who used to be spicy, bearded motor vehicle drivers. I warn trans women who used to be Army Seals. I warn trans women who loathing shopping and bind up up (and I warn heaps of non-trans women who do, too). I exceedingly warn trans women who used to be (and still are) reckoning nerds into fantasy/anime/sci fi (and I warn heaps of non-trans women who are, as well). So I would not use community personal effects as markers or clues with hold to your child's identity. The fact that she has not had any dates (that you are attentive of) does not mean at all, either. It's voluntary that she has not worn-out or had relationships so she was under pressure with her own identity and not surely who she penury or authority want to date. (I use the female pronoun so, at this point, your youngster has told you that she is trans. A gender beam pronoun authority exceedingly be agreeable. I'm just not surely, based on what I warn at this time.) It's not odd for young people (or any person) to baffle gender identity with sexual suggestion, in a straight line today, seeing that exhibit are so many resources free online. In fact, seeing that a person is grappling with his or her gender identity, that person authority call together that he or she is gay or lesbian, so that's the only moment that seems to frostily make observe, in a straight line even as it just doesn't feel very right. Your youngster is leaving to see a connoisseur. That is the peak life-threatening moment. That connoisseur will help her sort personal effects out. Later than she is able to sort that out, she will exceedingly be able to determine who she (or he) is attracted to. But don't let the fact that your youngster is not "readily" female, that your youngster has come out into the future as gay, or that your youngster is not dating vigor you. None of these personal effects mean at all with hold to whether or not your youngster is trans. Let your youngster and the analyst work this out, and trust your youngster to warn her own mind. Your youngster is on the right trip. Let personal effects support their lope."This place autonomously appeared on Matt Kailey's endearing website Tranifesto.com. Republished with precisely."