"I don't know - she just looks like too much work," Henry responded after studying her through a cloud of smoke rising lazily from the cigarette in his mouth.
"If she is anything like Helen I want to give it a miss," John thought out loud, "she was like a ton of bricks around your shoulder."
Unbeknown to many of you (women) men may label or pigeon-hole you as being "too much hard work." Hence you may find the men would not generally initiate contact with you and if they do they tend to avoid you after a couple of contacts, because they may feel that you are too much work. Similarly men tend to mentally label some women as a great sport to be with.
What do men use to decide whether you are a nice challenge or too much work?
1. Your countenance or the general look on your face. Has anyone ever told you that you need to smile some more? If so you definitely need to practice wearing a smile. A pleasant smiley face tells a lot about. If you have a serious face, even if you would contend that is what God gave you at birth, man may avoid you or give you a wide berth. Not having a pleasant face may signal that you are a very difficult person to start a conversation with although this may not be true, people still judge the book by its cover.
a. I walked into a meeting the other day and saw a girl who flashed a ready smile at me. No she wasn't really flirting because I noticed she did that to almost everyone. However I felt a natural urged to want to talk to her. She was almost magnetic. While not everyone could be like that, most of us can cultivate a pleasant face, it may feel contrived at first but after a while it will become natural.
2. The way you carry yourself. How you carry your body sends a lot of signals to people who see you. Do you walk with ease and grace, or do you drag yourself around? It is even worse if you give off an air of aristocracy as if you belong to the royal family and everyone else is a commoner. To learn how to carry your body take a look at how models walk and also remember to avoid slouching.
3. The way you speak and your ability to hold a decent conversation. I was once enraptured by a girl whose voice it thought was golden. Not only that he diction and vocabulary was rather impressive. She was a great conversationalist. She listened and asked the right questions at the right time. Many people tend to be afraid to speak to strangers because they don't know what to say. Its rather simple. Always start by introducing yourself and asking the person their name. You can easily follow this up by telling them where you are from or what field of work you are in and ask about theirs. Find out if they enjoy their work, why they chose that profession etc. To increase you vocabulary, try reading at least 10-15 minutes a day and also listening to radio and television documentaries.
4. The energy and vibes you send out. The enthusiasm you have will magically rub off on other people. People will want to be with you. They will seek you out. Find something to be happy and joyful about. However you are too serious are worst dull most men will run a mile as they want to lighten up and have some fun. While many women say they like someone who can make them laugh, man men equally like to have a happy time when they are with you.
5. Do you have a life? I mean a full and active life. Apart from your work, are you engaged in hobbies, sports, educational clubs and other extra curricula activities? People who don't have a life tend to be like dead weight. They have nothing or very little variety in their lives and somehow they seem to want you to entertain them. While that is alright for a little while you will soon run out of steam and energy to carry them. Having a full life indicates to a man that he does not have carry emotionally or even have to be continually entertaining you. That's very good encouragement! If you don't have one go get a life today. Start by joining a club, group or even volunteer for some charity.
Hilton Samuel - teaches how to become irresistible. He is a master at unravelling the knotty, misunderstood dynamics of love. He knows the art and science of attracting and maintaining loving relationships. He also helps single women how to get the right man for them.
He is an author and regular guest on TV and radio programs. For more free information on how to find the love of your life http://www.hiltonsamuel.com
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